Thursday, April 17, 2014

Date Night: Jersey Boys

Hubs and I have been homebodies lately, since it seems like most of the festivals and events I'd usually go to during this time of year involve drinking or partying.  While I definitely love those things, they're not as fun while pregnant.  So, unless my husband or friends REALLY want to go, we're been skipping those events.  I've been searching for some good, wholesome, sober fun lately, so I jumped at an opportunity offered by our local performing arts center, The Straz Center in Tampa, to attend the opening night of the musical, Jersey Boys.  

I'd heard about the musical from my friends, who loved it.  They're also from Jersey, so... they felt the kinship.  I knew the show was about the formation and career Frankie Valli and the Four Seasons.  Since I'm a sucker for oldies, this sounded like a fun night's entertainment and a great date night option.

Frankie Valli and the Four Seasons

My husband and I attended the event last Tuesday, and I was happily surprised at what a great production it was.  I love the acoustics of our performing arts center, which make the performers sound wonderful (even if they're a little off that night).  We had great seats to the show, and I found out after we sat down that this is the first musical production my husband has EVER seen outside of a high school theater.  WOW.  I've been to Broadway shows, regional and national touring shows at local performing arts venues, etc., so I guess I never knew that he hasn't had those same types of experiences.  After the show, he told me that he really enjoyed himself and would go to other shows like this.  Woo hoo!

The show itself featured actors portraying the four original members of the Four Seasons, including the star of the group Frankie Valli.  The actor playing Frankie sang wonderfully on some songs and his voice seemed to struggle a bit on others, but overall, he did a great job as Frankie.  The other actors were wonderful too, and the set design was simple but very effective.  

I loved these parts of the show, as well as the sets...

The pictures only tell a small slice of a story, it's really a great show with fun, energetic music that you want to sing along to (if you're like me, that is!).  Check it out here in Tampa or in a city near you!!

Next up:  Getting my husband to see more musicals.  I hear Jesus Chris Superstar is coming soon and starring artists like Michelle Williams (of Destiny's Child fame), JC Chasez (my N'Sync crush), and Brandon Boyd (my Incubus crush), so DEFINITELY need to convince my hubby that it's a must-see.  At least to get this lady some eye candy!

What's your favorite musical?  
Have you seen any great shows lately?

Tuesday, April 15, 2014

More Questions for the Preggo

Lately, it seems like people have not only been asking me more questions about my pregnancy, but giving me their commentary on how they think I'm handling my pregnancy.  People warned me that the Peanut Galleries of the world would be doing this, providing their unsolicited opinions and making statements about what THEY think I should do/eat/think/believe.  I was ready for it.  Although most of this is meant with the best of intentions, I know that some questions are coming from a place of judgment and critique.  It's all soooo much fun!

So, without further ado...

Q:  "Why don't you put more baby bump pictures on Facebook (and Instagram, Twitter, etc.)?"  Also, "Are you going to have maternity photos taken?"
A:  Hmmm... It's both simple and complicated.  Simple answer:  I just don't feel like posting any pictures until I have a more defined baby bump.  This is the truth.  Complicated answer:  I've gained a lot of weight over the past couple of years and I really don't like seeing any ol' pictures of myself plastered all over the internet.  I'm selective about which pictures I show these days, until I'm feeling better about how I look.  As I noted in a previous post, I got pregnant at a higher weight than I had hoped, and I've been instructed not to "diet" while pregnant.  I've been making efforts to eat healthier and take on healthy habits, which has helped keep my total weight gain to date at 11 lbs.  I actually do have a growing baby bump, though, so I will probably post a picture or two soon.  I probably won't be investing in maternity photos for the reasons stated above, but I could change my mind in the upcoming months.  You never, ever know.  (I've been known to change my mind from time to time.)

Q:  "Why didn't you do something special for your family to announce your pregnancy?  Like giving your mom a special "grandma" onesie or something."  Also, "Why didn't you have a gender reveal party?"
A:  Let me start by saying that I LOVE parties, and any excuse for throwing one, but there are several reasons why I didn't make a big production out of announcing my pregnancy or the sex of the baby.  First, my family members are anxious and impatient beings who have been dying for me to get pregnant for years.  I found out I was pregnant on December 17, and immediately I asked Hubs how we should tell people--special gift at Christmas time or just call everyone right away and share the good news.  As soon as I mentioned these options, my better senses smacked me in the face.  My family would NOT have been happy if I had known I was pregnant for 1-2 weeks and didn't tell them, only to spring it on them with a silly gift at the holiday party.  I also vividly remember my sister saying to me, "Don't you dare find out your pregnant then wait several weeks to surprise us with some dumb gift." (That says it all, folks.)  My family doesn't care about making a big ordeal out of things, so we abandoned the gift idea and called everyone.  It was a wonderful night.  Everyone was happy and crying (tears of joy), and I knew I'd made the right call.  The gender reveal is pretty much the same story, but in all honesty, nobody really cared if we were having a girl or a boy.  While our families and close friends were interested in our baby's sex, waiting for us to plan some party wasn't going to make anyone happy and we would have been pestered non-stop.  We just called our families, texted the news to a few close friends, and posted the news on Facebook.

Planning parties with my family and friends is tough anyway.  We don't all live near each other.  My parents are 1.5 hours from us and my sister and her family are almost 2 hours away.  Many of our friends are in town, but most live 20-30 minutes (or more) away and everyone has incredibly busy lives.  It just worked better for us to not have a party.  I don't think this makes our announcement any more or less special than someone else's, but with all things, I think you have to consider your audience and timing.  The Peanut Gallery has told me that I'm not "trying hard enough to make my pregnancy special" because I'm not doing these things, but I think that's ridiculous.  10 years ago, nobody did gender reveal parties and silly gifts. They're an invention of the Facebook and Pinterest era, and while these parties are a fun concept, they're not necessary to have a happy, healthy and fun pregnancy.

Q:  "Have your feet started to swell yet?"
A:  Oh yes, and my fingers too!  I could barely stuff my feet into my work loafers this morning, which was delightful.  I can't wait until the third trimester when my feet will only fit in to flip flops!  My bosses are going to love that.  My fingers started to swell early on, too, so I took my rings off around week 10.  Then I got hit on by some dude at the Veterinarian's office and was asked by a lady at work about my baby's dad.  I knew that if she'd seen my wedding rings, she would have asked about my husband.  I knew right then and there that I needed a cheap, fake wedding ring to hold me over, ASAP.  Fast forward to 2 weekends ago, I was shopping at Target and found a passable set of fakes for $20.  SOLD. 

Q:  "When are you having your shower?" 
A:  Hopefully when I'm around 30-32 weeks.  Any later will just be miserable and hot and uncomfortable.  Plus, it will be nice to have an idea of what I'll need to buy on my own before baby arrives, and have time to buy everything without being in a rush.

Q:  "Will you be doing anything special for Bella?"
A:  I didn't know what this meant.  If they mean a gift, or special treatment, or special kenneling, or a party, I don't think so.  We'll give her all of the same love, cuddles and kisses that we already do, but we don't want to draw attention to this as a huge, life changing event for her (even though it is, kind of).  I want her to know that she's loved as much as always, but sending her to a pet resort for a week would send her into a panic.  She'd think of it as a Puppy Alcatraz, and would probably come back home with a horrible attitude and pee all over the house just to spite us.  It's better for us to show her that things will be carrying on the same as always, just with a new family member.  Also, if that friend asking about Bella meant special training to prep her for a baby, I'm not sure.  Bella loves babies and kids, and while she will be a little bit jealous with a baby in the house at first, I'm confident that she'll adjust quickly to change like she always.  I do know of a good pet psychologist/trainer, though, so I'll use her if Bella starts doing anything cray.

AHHHH, these people kill me.  But I know their questions are coming from a place of love... helpfulness... and nosiness.  Until later, friends!

Sunday, April 13, 2014

Life Lately

Hey friends, I hope you've all been doing great these days.  

I realized today that I haven't given anyone an update on my life these days.  We must catch up, right?

Well, I'm now 21 weeks pregnant, and feeling...okay.  The second trimester has been a lot better than the first, but getting bigger, having worse heartburn, seeing my feet swell, and having difficulty sleeping have been tough (not exactly my dream come true).  I honestly don't know how anyone can say that they LOVE being pregnant, unless it's because they're focusing on the attention they're getting.  Pregnancy is no picnic, but I know it's all for a great cause.  My baby bump is growing, and it's hard to feel like I'm getting so huge.  Ugh.  Aside from that, my next doctor visits are next week and hopefully they go well.

In other news...  Hubs and I are doing well and busy trying to get things checked off our To Do list.  We made a list of house projects that we want to get done before our baby arrives in August, and let's just say that the list was longer than I initially imagined.  Yikes.  We will be prioritizing the list and trying to wrap up as much as possible between now and the end of July.  It's mostly things like organizing and cleaning out the garage, re-screening the patio, installing a new kitchen sink/faucet, redoing certain parts of our home's landscaping (including mulching and planting new bushes), painting the nursery and a few other things.  Of course we also have to set up the nursery, but that's a fun "nesting" activity for me to do in June.

In other news... Work has been ridiculous for months now, and it feels like even though I have help, I'm not feeling the relief that I need.  I love my job, but there's so much drama going on all the time and people keep throwing more work my way.  I seriously need more hours in the day, and not to have a baby making me so darn tired.  While I may feel frustration right now, I know that things always get better and I'm going to keep working hard until things get easier.

In other news...  Little things have totally been making my day lately.  Example:  I got some dinner at Wendy's the other night on my way to a blogger event, and they had a deal.  You but a Frosty Key Tag for $1 (proceeds go to charity) and you get a free Jr. Frosty ANY TIME you go to Wendy's until the end of 2014.  My little preggo heart leaped up and danced when I saw that!  I also bought one for Hubs.  That's a good wife--keeping her hubby set with Jr. Frosties all year long!

In other news...  I found that my new favorite Bath and Body Works candle, Beach Cabana, has a magical way of transforming my mood from stressed to relaxed.  I seriously want to stockpile these so I'm totally set if they ever discontinue the scent (and they WILL discontinue it someday, they always do) or there's a zombie apocalypse or whatever.

In other news...  My car wouldn't start on Saturday when I went to leave my house for a charity fashion show.  It was towed to the dealership and left there until Monday, when it can be looked at for repairs.  It's supposedly an engine problem, according to OnStar, so I hope it doesn't cost me a bundle to repair.  It's a 4 year old car that I LOVE, so I really hope it's nothing major.  I'm so bummed that I missed the charity fashion show, and I haven't had a car to drive all weekend, which hasn't been so great.  I hope we can get the car issues resolved fast on Monday morning and at least get me in a loaner for a day or two.

In other news... Hubs and I took an afternoon off work to tour daycare centers this past week.  The whole thing seemed like a mind-numbing task, but we had fun with it and agreed (amazingly enough) on the two centers we liked.  We saw one that was INCREDIBLE, like the Ritz-Carlton of daycares, but they wanted $1300/month, which was way, way (wwwwaaaaayyyyy) outside of our price range.  The one we chose was a lot less expensive but still wonderful and close to home.

In other news... April in Florida is seriously the best time of year.  I LOVE IT right now.  The weather is gorgeous, it doesn't rain much and it's not too hot yet.  I just want to be outside all the time, with my Kindle Fire in one hand and a venti Starbucks Passion Tea Lemonade in the other.

In other news...  I went to two really fun events for bloggers this week, and posts are coming about both of those events.  I had a great time, and can't wait to share those experiences with you!

In other news... I've been nesting.  I hung up a bunch of the baby's new clothes in her closet and started to organize her blankets and other goodies given to us by friends.  We ordered her furniture, so now we're playing the waiting game until it comes in and we can really start getting her nursery set up.  Tick-tock, I'm getting restless and anxious because I want to get it started!

That's it for me!  Nothing too crazy, nothing too dull.  Juuuuust right.  I hope everything's been great with you all lately!  

Wednesday, March 19, 2014

Baby C is a... {Gender Reveal}

One of the miracles of modern medicine is its ability to give us a lot of information, sometimes very early, allowing us to make decisions about care for ourselves and those we love.  At my 12 week appointment, my doctor conducted genetic blood testing so I could see my risk level for genetic conditions, such as trisomy disorders and Down's syndrome.  This test also gives us information about the sex of the baby.  Though this testing is optional, I knew right away that I wanted it, and I wanted to know the sex of our little Biscotti. 

I received a call about 2.5 weeks later with the results and learned some incredibly happy news.  Our chances for any genetic disorders were extremely low and we found out that we are having a...


I was shocked at first because although I didn't care if we were having a girl or a boy, part of me was convinced that it would be a boy.  Once I got used to the thought, I called my husband immediately and told him the big news.   His first thought was that he had hoped for a boy, and then he said "Now we'll have to pay for a wedding."  HA!  Yes, Hubs, that's what comes along with a girl, paying for her wedding.  Silly boy.  Though his dreams of dressing a son in rocker and hockey gear was dashed, he said he was really excited because a girl will be named after his mom (which I'm super happy about too).  AND, I told him he could still dress his little girl in rocker gear and hockey logo'd onesies, so he was a happy dude.  That's compromise, folks.

Having a girl is going to be wonderful.  One of my friends recently told me that I was going to the best girl-mom ever, and that made me unbelievably happy.  Sometimes I'm not sure what kind of mom I'll turn out to be, but I just want to be a good one.  Not a perfect mom, but good for my kiddo.  Also, I know what to do with a girl, but I wouldn't know what to do with a boy, so that's a little bit of stress off of me at an already stressful time.  OH, and my twin sister will be giving me my niece's hand-me-downs, so we already have some clothes and baby equipment waiting for us.  Score!

I also went out this past weekend and started my baby shower registries, and it was fun scanning endless pink items, dresses, bows and headbands.  We're choosing to keep a number of larger ticket items gender neutral (in terms of color and style) in case we have another baby (a boy) in the future, but there's a crazy amount of pink all over everything else.  Hubs really likes it that way, and doesn't want us to shy away from pink just because it's stereotypical.  As a girl, we've accepted that she'll most likely be interested in pink, princesses, ruffles and anything else girly, and we're okay with that.  If she turns out to be more of a tomboy, that's okay too!  The pink can disappear at a later time.

There you have it!!  Baby C, aka Biscotti, is a girl. 

Are you surprised??

Wednesday, March 12, 2014

Pregnancy Q&A

Since I found out that I was pregnant, I have been asked allllll kinds of questions from friends, family, coworkers, and even strangers.  Here's a sampling of what I've been asked and the God's honest truth.

Enjoy, friends.

Q:  How far along are you?  (courtesy of my assistant this morning)
A:  I'm currently at 16 weeks.  Just 24 weeks to go until baby arrives!!

Q:  Are you sure there's only one baby in there?  (courtesy of my uncle)
A:  YES, we have verified this with the doctor and ultrasound tech at every single appointment.  I'm a twin, but I'm relieved to only be having one!

Q:  Were you and your husband trying to have a baby? (courtesy of two nosy coworkers)
A:  Yes, but no.  We have always wanted kids, but weren't really "trying" since my doctor told me it could take a year or more for me to get pregnant after we pulled the goalie (I'd been on BC FOREVER).  I was told by my doctor to take it easy and not to stress or work too hard unless it doesn't happen by the 1 year mark.  So we just weren't preventing but weren't really "trying", and you know what that leads to... a bun in the oven!  Even though we were surprised by our news, we were and still are absolutely overjoyed.  The timing couldn't be better!

Q:  Have you been doing any cardio?  I hear that pregnancy takes a toll on your body and working out helps. (courtesy of a fitness fanatic friend)
A:  I've been walking and stuff, but I'm just out of my first trimester where I was exhausted all the time.  So no, there hasn't been a lot of cardio going on (aside from brisk walks with my dog).  The second trimester should be much better for that. (She looked at me disapprovingly, btw.  Whatever.)

Q:  Are you wearing maternity clothes yet?  (courtesy of my mom and sister)
A:  I wear both!  Most of my pre-pregnancy clothes still fit, but the pants are snug.  I've been wearing maternity pants for the last couple of weeks just because they're so comfy, but I've been wearing regular pants sometimes too.  Most of my pre-pregnancy tops still fit, but the dresses are just not as flattering.  Soon it will be mostly maternity, with a few regular cardis thrown in.

Q:  Are you showing yet?  (courtesy of my friend up in MI and my sister)
A:  Yes, I'm just starting to show.  I have an awkward B belly, but it should round out in the months to come.  Right now it just looks like I polished off a 32 oz. T-bone steak with all of the acoutrements for lunch.

Q:  How much weight have you gained? (Courtesy of another nosy coworker)
A:  I gained 6 lbs in my first trimester, but I'm trying to limit my overall weight gain.  I expect to gain some, but I don't want it to get out of control since I'm already plus sized.  And, it would be less for me to worry about losing after baby gets here!

Q:  Do you have bad gas yet?  (courtesy of a stranger)
A:  I have bad acid reflux (hearburn, burping, stomach upset), but gas, as in farting?  Not yet.  That's something to look forward to, I suppose.

Q:  What prenancy symptoms have you had?  (courtesy of my bosses)
A:  Acid reflux, restless sleep, lower back pain, a little nausea at first, exhaustion, and swollen feet.  Thank goodness that I never had any morning sickness (please don't throw rocks at me!). 

Q:  Are you craving pickles and ice cream yet?  (courtesy of a friend)
A:  Not really.  I haven't had many cravings or aversions, but sweet things have been sounding really good recently.  I've been eating a lot of fruit and trying to keep myself away from candy and cookies, but I haven't been entirely successful in that (you know it's Girl Scout cookie season, after all). 

Q:  Are you planning to breastfeed? (courtesy of a friend from high school and a coworker)
A:  I have no idea.  I feel like formula feeding would be better for me, but I haven't ruled out breastfeeding yet.  If I breastfed, I'd mostly be pumping and using bottles anyway.  I just can't see myself with a baby suckling on me all the time, but I have read about the benefits of breast milk.  I'll decide sometime in the next 5 months!

Q:  What are you doing about childcare?  Will you stay home with the baby or put him or her in daycare?  (courtesy of 2 friends from high school)
A:  I'm going to be working mom, so daycare it is!  We don't have family in the immediate area, so we don't have any other options.  We started touring daycare centers this week and will wrap that up by the end of March.

Q:  Do you want a boy or a girl?  (courtesy of my bosses)
A:  I don't care either way!  Honestly!  I would be happy with a girl or a boy, but I really don't know much about boys.  I'd figure it out, though!  My husband wants a boy so badly, but we'll see what's in there soon!

Q:  Have you picked out any names?  (courtesy of everyone I've talked to lately)
A:  Yes, but we won't be sharing it publicly until the baby is born.

Q:  Do you know the baby's sex yet?  (courtesy of everyone I've talked to lately)
A:  Yes!  We just found out last week thanks to our Panorama testing.  I have a blog post coming soon to share the news, so stay tuned!

Q:  Have you decided on a nursery theme yet?  (courtesy of an aunt)
A:  No, we've been looking at bedding and decor, but nothing stands out to us yet.  The search continues!  We do plan to incorporate giraffes in some way since they're my favorite animal, though.

So there you have it!  Current questions and our answers.  Were you or anyone else you know asked any funny or inappropriate questions during pregnancy?

Wednesday, March 5, 2014

A Season of Change

The past month or two has taught me a lot about life, love and the realities of growing older, and these months have made me see certain friendships in new lights.  I had wonderful moments of clarity, happiness and contentment, which were punctuated by periods of sadness that I haven't felt in a long, long time.

To begin with, I’ve never had the most reliable friends. I remember as a teenager asking my mom why the only person I could ever count on was my twin sister, since many of my friends were a bit flaky and simply couldn't be relied on. She just said that's how it is for some people, and we aren't always lucky enough to have great friends who are there for us through anything. Man, was she ever right.  I always wished I had that level of support from someone who wasn't actually a blood relative of mine, and prayed I would find that in later years.

This trend has continued on throughout my life, though I've had some periods of time where it was less of an issue. I've always done a lot for other people just because I like to show people support and friendship in meaningful ways.  I like doing little things, like offering to meet up for drinks after a friend’s had a bad day, or bringing a friend their favorite soup and magazines when they're sick.  However, when I realized that those efforts were not being reciprocated or shared, I tended to pull back.  I couldn't allow myself to be a person who continually gives and gives to others and gets nothing in return.  Thankfully, I've found some good friends over the years and haven't needed to worry about that quite so much.

That is, until recently, when some of my friends began to show their lack of reliability during an important time in my life.

Hubs and I announced our pregnancy at a small housewarming party we held in early February, where we invited closer friends and people we thought would like to hear our news directly from us, rather than through the grapevine or on social media. Our friends in attendance seemed excited but certain friends seemed awkward about it.  We later learned that these friends are going through tough times in their current relationships, so seeing my husband and I's new house, hearing about our news of a baby on the way and great jobs might not have been totally aligned with what they're going through right now.  I get that.

After that, I called and emailed two long-term friends who live in other states about our good news. While the response was good from one, I heard crickets from the other one (let’s call her College Bestie).  So I followed up with another phone call, and an email. Still, I received no response. I thought, "What gives?! I tell you that I have big news and want to chat ASAP and I don't even get a call back??" I hoped she had a good excuse since we’ve been friends for almost 20 years.

Since then, we announced our news on Facebook and Instagram, and we felt so much support and love. I did notice, though, that College Bestie and a couple of other long-time friends were conspicuously absent from the Likes, Comments and general messages of congratulations. Again, not what I thought would happen.  I was bugged, but what can you do?  AND, it's Facebook.  I've learned not to hold a lot of stock in what happens in the world of social media for a myriad of reasons.

College Bestie sent me a message on Facebook a couple weeks later acknowledging my messages and apologizing for being "a horrible friend" and not contacting me back sooner. She said she had been too busy with work and commitments to call or email me back, but saw my news on Facebook and was happy for me. It just felt... hollow. Saying that my feelings were hurt would be a huge understatement. After being friends for so many years, I really wanted more.  I replied about a week later (after my initial frustration wore off and a cooler head prevailed), and said that I was disappointed that I hadn't heard from her, but hoped that we could talk soon. I still haven't heard from her.

While this was going on, one of my closest local friends (let’s call her Married Mabel) asked me to get together for a girl's day, to hang out at my house and watch chick flicks without our husbands.  I was excited because I've hardly seen her lately and I miss her.  We confirmed that we were getting together the day before, but on the day of, she flaked out on me. I waited hours for Married Mabel to arrived, and not only did she never show up at my house, but she has still never called me to tell me what happened.  Was I hurt?  OH YEAH.  I know she's been having a tough time with certain things in her life, but you know what?  So am I.  They might be different things, but they're just as important.

I tried to push these things to the back of my mind, but how could I? These are people I care about, and I was just blown off in big ways, without much care about how that would make me feel. 

A week ago, Hubs was sick with the flu and quarantined to the bedroom, and I found myself alone with a lot of time for thinking. With my pregnancy hormones in full gear, I cried a lot over these friend issues and ultimately came to realize that this is a season of change for me.

Many things will take my life in a different direction from those of my friends, especially as we get older.  While I believe we can still stay close friends through all of the changes life brings, whether it be kids, marriages, divorces, relocations, loved ones passing away, and more, but it requires support and friendship on both sides.  Being a mom doesn’t change who I am as a person, but the other friend has to realize that and make as much of an effort to keep the friendship alive as I do.  It’s not a one-sided affair by either person.

Married Mabel and College Bestie aren’t interested in having kids at all.  I often wonder if they believe that we’ll soon have less in common because of that.  Many of my friends from college (like College Bestie) have chosen not (or have been unable) to have children, and they remember a time when I said that I didn't want kids either.  Over time, I changed my mind and I decided that I wanted kids.  Now I'm having one, which is great, right?!  But I can understand why they might be confused or annoyed or any number of other emotions. They might have figured that if I hadn't pulled the kid-trigger yet, but I might just be staying a member of the No Kids Club, like them.  But here I am, having a baby, and it might just feel like one more reason to not communicate like we should, like one thing we just don't have in common anymore.  This couldn’t be further from the truth, in my opinion.  Babies don’t change the fact that I love celeb gossip, beauty products, shopping, my adorable dog, having cocktails, going to concerts and traveling.  My priorities might shift a bit, but all of those things remain intact.

Married Mabel has since texted me to apologize for what she did and said that she's just having a tough time in life. In general, I believe in giving people a pass if they are going through hard times, particularly due to relationship issues, pregnancy, or other problems that take them away from their friends for a bit. That's fair and sometimes people need space.


I pay attention to social media. I see that this friend has had no problem making time for other commitments and other friends recently. Has she called me since bailing on me?  No, and I don't expect her to, at least not anytime soon.  Is my happy news just too much for her to deal with while she's got her issues?  I have no idea.  I've heard rumors about her issues, but I don't really trust rumors. I trust meaningful, honest conversations. I miss our days of long, personal talks, and part of me wants time with her to do just that.  Right now, I just want a call back, and I haven't even gotten that.  It felt like our friendship was gone practically overnight and I never got the memo.

Ultimately, I know that for my own sanity, my own happiness, I need to adjust my expectations of other people.  I can't expect their reactions to stress and life to be just like mine, and I can't expect them to treat me the ways I want to be treated all the time.  My expectations are not their expectations.  This is SO hard to for me to do because I want to believe people value me enough to respond in certain ways, but their ways and my ways might be different.  I have to be okay with this or else this kind of thing will only make me feel worse.

You know that sadness that I mentioned feeling earlier?  I think feeling was actually grief, over a realization that once cherished friends may in fact be gone for good or at the very least, those friendships are evolving into something different.  And that’s okay.  That’s a part of life that I will never get away from because my life will always be changing, as will the lives of my friends.

Getting older and experiencing life changes is never easy, especially when you feel like you’re losing key elements of your support system.  I’m finding that my family and a couple of friends have been wonderful, and they’ve brought clarity to my situation.  This might also be a time when I let certain friends go and invest more time and energy in new friendships.  If that's the way things turn out, then this season of change will be a big one.  Nurturing new friendships is never easy, but I do love a challenge!  If Married Mabel or College Bestie come around and recommit to our friendship, I will be here waiting to see what they have to say.

Only time will tell what will really happen or how things will change from here, but I think it’s time to see a new season in life ahead of me.

Tuesday, February 25, 2014

The Day My World Changed

Let's take a little stroll back in time about 3 months, to Tuesday, December 17, 2013.

The time leading up to my trifecta of amazing holidays (Christmas, my birthday, and New Year's) this past year was really stressful.  I was working my tush off at my job and still trying to make time for friends, family, my Junior Woman's Club and blog events.  I started a bunch of blog posts with every intention to finish them, but although I was in a great mood, I was really tired and had trouble finding motivation to finish anything.  I chalked this up to being stressed out and therefore just wanting support from those around me and to veg out whenever possible.

On the evening of December 17, I came home and got something tremendous... a positive pregnancy test!

YEP, Hubs and I are expecting our first baby!

Bella will be such a good big sister!

It turns out that my exhaustion and other issues were pregnancy symptoms!

This was absolutely the biggest, most life-changing news I've ever received.  I mean, it would change anyone's life, right?!  I was initially surprised, but that quickly turned to excitement, happiness, and a few tears.  This was great news, and perfect timing now that we have our new house.

We are due on August 26, 2014, which currently makes me 14 weeks along.  And yes, there's just ONE baby living in my tummy.  Thank freaking God.  (No offense to parents of multiples, but as a twin, I just know that my sister and I  were a ton of work for my poor mom.  One is fine by me.)

I've been getting all kinds of crazy pregnancy questions lately, which I'll share in a future post.

I'm sooooo glad I can finally get this off my chest.  I've been dying to tell everyone, but Hubs and I wanted to wait until the second trimester to share our news in totally public forums.  I feel totally relieved that it's out there for the world to see.  Whew!

Life is good, my friends.  Life is very good.

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I'm a wife, daughter and amazing twin sister. I'm a mom to my adorable dog, Bella. Loves: Shopping, cooking, baking, good grammar and Dave Matthews Band. I'm also a Bath and Body Works addict, a Michigan State Spartans fanatic, and an iPhone aficionado. I see beauty in simple things and little things make me ever-so-happy. Welcome to my world!

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